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Mindfulness

Mindful Parenting Skills Training

Launching on Mindfulness Day 2020

Launching on Mindfulness Day 2020 – See you there!

What? 4 Week Certificate Course for parents of children aged 0 to 16

Where? Global Online Training or Local venue TBA

When? Middle of each School Term

How? 4x1hr sessions delivered weekly via Zoom Video Conferencing or In Person locally.

Why Me? #Accredited Mindfulness Master with over 9,000 hours study into all aspects of mindfulness. #Successfully raised 4 children who are all champions in their fields. #Six years coaching teens from 7 different High Schools in my Cue Sport Centre in Wagga Wagga NSW. #Ten years mentoring youth in Juvenile Justice.

Cost? AU$300 (Approx US$182; CAD$258; GBP147; EUR168) One-to-One or Groups up to 12 maximum (eg: AU$50 each in group of 6 AU$25 each in group of 12)

Why not organise a group through your school or community organisation? Please send Expressions of Interest to bemindful@outlook.com.au
You are always welcome to phone 0418 864 162 (+61 418 864 162)
Be Mindful… Pause… Connect!
Mindfully Yours with Love & Respect Always! – John Shearer MM

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Mindfulness Day

Mindfulness Day 2020

Please share our facebook event: www.facebook.com/events/274978573465753/

It is always my hope that the people who are touched by my ripple, then create a ripple of their own. That way, we can change the world, one person at a time!

Mindfulness Day was first held on Sunday 4th May, 2014. It turned out to be Star Wars Day! May the fourth be with you! I invited Australians with mental suffering to the online facebook event and 4,700 people attended. It was a life changing event, not only for me, but for the hundreds of lives that were transformed by what I wrote.
What I did write was 27 daily blogs for what I called Mindful May. It became my first book Mindful Actions which was launched on World Mental Health Day. (10/10/2014)
This year, I will be giving away a pdf of my book and hosting a series of zoom get-togethers from Mindfulness Day, May 3rd to the following Sunday May 10th. (Mothers Day) The live zoom conferences will be held at 9am Sydney Australia Time AEST (UTC +10) for Aust/NZ/USA/Canada and 7pm AEST (UTC +10) for WAust/UK/Europe. Time Converter.
The main theme will be Mindful Practice, with a little extra focus on Mindful Parenting. I am also launching my newest creation R.A.G. Therapy. RAG is a mindfulness based therapy aimed at people in recovery. There really is no set agenda. Why not invite a friend and join us for a session or two? Share your mindful journey, what mindfulness means to you or just listen to learn more about the Mindful Movement! Mindfulness mentors, coaches, teachers and conscious leaders from around the globe are also invited.

8 Day Online Event: Mindfulness Day 2020
Sunday 3rd May through to Sunday 10th May

Looking forward to meeting you! Be Mindful… Pause… Connect!
Mindfully Yours with Love & Awareness Always! – John Shearer MM
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Mindfulness

New Workshop for 2020

My new workshop for 2020 – ACT for Mental Wellbeing – Enquire Now!
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Mindfulness Mentoring

Mindful Insights Feedback

I get heaps of positive feedback from people who subscribe to my 52 week mentoring service called Mindful Insights. Below is a recent example.

Hi John
Regarding Mindful Insight week 41, you wanted to know my definition of mindful practice. My definition of mindful practice is to let your heart, mind and spirit be constantly open, accepting life in a mindful way and being able to silence yourself when necessary. I use mindful practice every day. Whenever my mind starts to wonder, I say a little prayer and then return back to the present. I don’t take my phone anymore with me when I leave the house for shopping or out catching up with friends. If I have visitors, my phone is on silent in my bedroom so I can be present with my guests.
The first thing I do every morning is be grateful for being alive and healthy, grateful for all I have and grateful my family is good. Before I hop into the shower, I always take a look outside my back window and look at nature. It always puts a smile on my face, seeing the weather, the birds and the large dam that I back onto. Rainy days don’t make me sad, I actually love them because it brings everything to life. I water my vegetable garden before I go to work, it gives me a sense of peace watching my vegetables grow daily. In summer, I never wear foot wear in my front or back yard, as I love to feel the grass under my feet.
I feel a lot calmer in myself. I appreciate all nature now, I even take out spiders from the house and place them in the grass or garden these days. I have even converted my husband into doing this. Driving to and from work, it is an hour drive each way, I am present in the way that I either appreciate the sun shining through the car window or I appreciate the rain landing on my front window. Whenever it is raining, I always have a tendency to walk in the rain to feel the drops onto my skin, everyone thinks I am mad but I love the feel of being alive.
I am mindful when I cook as I now do it with patience and love. I always do my cleaning with pleasure. I do love cleaning though. And I make sure when entertaining that I am 100% present and enjoy and give out as much love and presence as I can. I now no longer judge people like I used to and being mindful allows me to respond rather than react. I always make sure when I am at the supermarket, that I go to a checkout where there is a person at the register. I always answer them if they ask how I am and I always ask them how they are and I listen to their answer.
Whenever I went swimming, I did lots overseas, I felt the cold water as I slowly walked into the ocean, noticing the saltiness on my skin as I dried in the sun. I sat there, watching the families around me playing in the ocean, noticing the warmth on my skin, the noise around me and the smell of the ocean. I do tend to stop lately, pause and soak up all the atmosphere around me when I am out and about.
I am so grateful for this course as I know I am now a completely different person and everyone can see the big change in me.
Kind Regards – Carmen

In My Certificate Course, You’ll Learn How to:

  • Tune into the deep intuitive wisdom that lies within you
  • Embrace new and exciting change in an empowering way
  • Overcome the false beliefs that people and society have embedded in you
  • Awaken to the power of merging the brain and the heart to make decisions that are true and meaningful
  • Build positive and loving relationships
  • Solve existing problems in your relationships
  • Learn mindfulness mentoring skills to help others
  • Create pathways to a life of happiness and abundance
  • And so much more!

More info about my 1 year mentoring service here. Mindfully Yours – John Shearer MM

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Mindfulness

True Mindfulness

True mind·ful·ness is a mental state achieved by focusing our awareness on the present moment, while calmly acknowledging our thoughts, feelings, bodily sensations, and surrounding environment. True mindfulness is characterised mainly by acceptance of our thoughts and feelings without judging whether they are right or wrong. True mindfulness focuses our mind on what is being sensed moment-by-moment, rather than ruminating on the past or the future. The ‘ful’ in mindfulness means being fully present.

My all time favourite definition is from 2009 when I trained to be an ACT Therapist with Dr Russ Harris [writer of The Happiness Trap (which I highly recommend)]:

“Mindfulness is a transformative mental state of awareness which involves focusing our attention with flexibility, openness, and curiosity.”

This simple definition tells us three important things:

  1. mindfulness is a process of awareness, not thinking. It involves paying attention to our experience in this moment as opposed to being caught up in thoughts. In a mindful state, we can let difficult thoughts and feelings freely flow through us, without getting all caught up in them or pushed around by them, and without getting into a struggle with them.
  2. mindfulness involves a particular attitude: one of openness and curiosity. Even if our experience in this moment is difficult, painful or unpleasant, we can be open to and curious about it instead of running from, fighting with or trying to avoid it. [eg: with alcohol or drugs (legal or illegal)]
  3. mindfulness involves flexibility of attention: the ability to consciously direct, broaden or focus attention on different aspects of experience. We can use mindfulness to ‘wake up,’ connect with ourselves and appreciate the fullness of each moment of life. We can use it to improve our self-knowledge – to learn more about how we feel, think and react. We can use it to connect deeply and intimately with the people we care about, including ourselves. And we can use it to consciously influence our own behaviour and increase our range of responses to the world we inhabit. It is the actions of living consciously – a profound way to enhance psychological resilience and increase life satisfaction.

Why not make up your own definition of mindfulness? My definition changes all the time, yours will too! Here is a couple of examples: Mindfulness is the defused, accepting, non-judgemental contact with the here and now. Mindful practice is pausing with awareness throughout the day and connecting to life and beyond with calm presence. Being mindful helps us to reflect on the mind from a different perspective, to make choice and change possible. Put simply, mindfulness is bringing awareness to the present moment with kindness!

Get started with a true mindful practice. Several times a day is best, especially when you notice that your mind is far away or notice your inner voice being negative or unhelpful. It’s not something that you make time for, it only takes a few seconds to Be Mindful… Pause… and Connect!

Yours in Awareness Always! – John Shearer MM

 

 

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Mindful Educators

Mindfulness in Education Summit

Please share this important Mindfulness in Education Summit with teachers or parents with school children. The Summit features 25 experts in the field of mindfulness from researchers to authors to teachers and educators. Learn about the strategies and tools needed as well as finding a range of resources and more to help you become more mindful and help children to develop that mindfulness too! And the good news is that I am one of the speakers! Love & Gratitude Always! – John
Follow this link for further info: Mindfulness in Education Summit

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Mindfulness

True Essence of Mindfulness

https://youtu.be/yQXrt1Qf-yg

This two minute clip by Jon Kabat-Zinn explains the true essence of mindfulness. The following snippet is from my mentoring service Mindful Insights:

True mind·ful·ness (2017) – A mental state achieved by focusing our awareness on the present moment, while calmly acknowledging our thoughts, feelings, bodily sensations, and surrounding environment. True mindfulness is characterised mainly by acceptance of our thoughts and feelings without judging whether they are right or wrong. True mindfulness focuses our mind on what is being sensed moment-by-moment, rather than ruminating on the past or the future. The ‘ful’ in mindfulness means being fully present.

My all time favourite definition is from 2009 when I trained to be an ACT Therapist with Dr Russ Harris [writer of The Happiness Trap (which I highly recommend)]:

“Mindfulness is a transformative mental state of awareness which involves focusing our attention with flexibility, openness, and curiosity.”

This simple definition tells us three important things:

  1. mindfulness is a process of awareness, not thinking. It involves paying attention to our experience in this moment as opposed to being caught up in thoughts. In a mindful state, we can let difficult thoughts and feelings freely flow through us, without getting all caught up in them or pushed around by them, and without getting into a struggle with them.
  2. mindfulness involves a particular attitude: one of openness and curiosity. Even if our experience in this moment is difficult, painful or unpleasant, we can be open to and curious about it instead of running from, fighting with or trying to avoid it. [eg: with alcohol or drugs (legal or illegal)]
  3. mindfulness involves flexibility of attention: the ability to consciously direct, broaden or focus attention on different aspects of experience. We can use mindfulness to ‘wake up,’ connect with ourselves and appreciate the fullness of each moment of life. We can use it to improve our self-knowledge – to learn more about how we feel, think and react. We can use it to connect deeply and intimately with the people we care about, including ourselves. And we can use it to consciously influence our own behaviour and increase our range of responses to the world we inhabit. It is the actions of living consciously – a profound way to enhance psychological resilience and increase life satisfaction.

Be Mindful… Pause… Connect! Yours in Awareness Always! – John

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Life Choices

25 Quotes for Perspective

25 Quotes for Perspective

  1. “She was one of the rare ones, so effortlessly herself, and the world loved her for it.” ~ Atticus
  2. “Be daring. Be different. Be impractical. Be anything that will assert integrity of purpose and imaginative vision against the play-it-safers. The creatures of the commonplace. The slaves of the ordinary.” ~ Cecil Beaton
  3. “Just keep moving forward, and don’t give a shit what anybody thinks.” ~ Johnny Depp
  4. “She accepts your compliments on her face, her hair, and her body graciously and she is, indeed, beautiful. But she is only moved when you notice the beauty of her spirit.” ~ Allaisia Hanan
  5. “There is no beauty without some strangeness.” ~ Edgar Allen Poe
  6. “It is ever so beautiful to be strange. To do things differently than others. To see things in a rare light. To me, that is such a gold to carry.” ~ Christopher Poindexter
  7. “What makes you weird or different, that’s your strength.” ~ Meryl Streep
  8. “She dances to the songs in her head, speaks with the rhythm of her heart, and loves from the depths of her soul.” ~ Dean Jackson
  9. “No great mind has ever existed without a touch of madness.” ~ Aristotle
  10. “But darling, we weren’t given this wild soul just to merely exist. Our mission is to shake up this world, turn it upside down, and show our fellow humans the difference between breathing and being fully alive.” ~ Unknown
  11. “Normal is an illusion. What is normal for the spider is chaos for the fly.” ~ Morticia Addams
  12. “It seems that if you’re passionate about something, it freaks people out. You’re considered bizarre or eccentric. To me, it just means you know who you are.” ~ Tim Burton
  13. “If you don’t fit in, then you’re probably doing the right thing.” ~ Unknown
  14. “Stop trying to explain yourself. People only understand things from their level of perception within the parameters of their agreement with reality.” ~ Steve Maraboli
  15. “I hope to arrive to my death late, in love, and a little drunk.” ~ Atticus
  16. “There are parts of me that will always remain untameable, messy, and reckless; but I refuse to apologize for it anymore.” ~ Kaitlin Fester
  17. “Be brave. Be wild. And stay forever hungry for art, love, knowledge, and adventure.” ~ Erin Van Vuren
  18. “I’m with the dirty mouth girls. The ones with bare feet, brilliant minds, messy hair, wild hearts, and feisty spirits. The ones who aren’t afraid to speak up and who live for doing what they’ve been told is impossible.” ~ Brooke Hampton
  19. “Be weird. Be random. Be who you are. Because you never know who could love the person you hide.” ~ C.S. Lewis
  20. “You’ll turn out ordinary if you’re not careful.” ~ Ann Brashares
  21. “If you end up with a boring miserable life because you listened to your mom, your dad, your teacher, your priest, or some guy on television telling you how to do your shit, then you deserve it.” ~ Frank Zappa
  22. “To be successful, your focus has to be so intense that others think you’re crazy.” ~ Kim Orlesky
  23. “I will not be another flower, picked for my beauty and left to die. I will be wild, difficult to find, and impossible to forget.” ~ Erin Van Vuren
  24. “Normality is a paved road: it’s comfortable to walk, but no flowers grow.” ~ Vincent van Gogh
  25. “Live the full life of the mind, exhilarated by new ideas, intoxicated by the romance of the unusual.” ~ Ernest Hemingway

It’s all about perspective. Your greatest gift is your uniqueness.
Be Mindful… Pause… Connect! – Yours in Awareness Always! – John

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Mindfulness

Benefits of a Mindful Practice

Feedback about the Benefits of a Mindful Practice

I have been receiving excellent feedback from people who have subscribed to my Mindful Insights Mentoring Service. My favourite comment, “It’s great having only one thing to work on each week.” Some of the benefits mentioned are:

  • “Helps me reduce stress.”
  • “Helps me to be in touch with my emotions, but not ruled by them.”
  • “Helps me to be more balanced.”
  • “Helps me live a better life and enjoy the life I have.”
  • “Starts my day off right.”
  • “I feel more creative.”
  • “Helps me to focus on what’s important.”
  • “I am less reactive.”
  • “Helps me sleep better.”
  • “Greater control over my life.”
  • “More peace.”
  • “Makes me feel better mentally and physically.”
  • “Helps me focus on the good things in life.”
  • “My decision making is clearer.”

Mindfulness is not a cure or quick fix. It is a process that requires practice, that’s why it is called a mindful practice. The hardest thing to do when I started my practice was remembering to practice! Several people have commented how they love receiving an insight every Friday. They read over the weekend and practice throughout their week.

I have retired as a mentor with Juvenile Justice to focus on establishing Mindfulness Mentoring Institute. I devote my mornings to teaching and coaching sessions and keep my afternoons appointment free to receive phone and skype calls. Please feel welcome to call for an obligation free chat about my certificate course or mentoring service. I am available 7 days between noon & 4pm NSW time. Phone 0418 864 162

My main message: Be Mindful… Pause… Connect!
Mindfully Yours with Love, Joy & Peace Always! – John

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Life Choices

10 Lessons from Einstein

Which is your favourite lesson from Albert?
1. Follow Your Curiosity: “I have no special talent. I am only passionately curious.”
2. Perseverance is Priceless: “It’s not that I’m so smart; it’s just that I stay with problems longer.”
3. Focus on the Present: “Any man who can drive safely while kissing a pretty girl is simply not giving the kiss the attention it deserves.”
4. Imagination is Powerful: “Imagination is everything. It is the preview of life’s coming attractions. Imagination is more important than knowledge.”
5. Make Mistakes: “A person who never made a mistake never tried anything new.”
6. Live in the Moment: “I never think of the future – it comes soon enough.”
7. Create Value: “Strive not to be a success, but rather to be of value.”
8. Don’t Be Repetitive: “Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”
9. Knowledge Comes From Experience: “Information is not knowledge. The only source of knowledge is experience.”
10. Learn the Rules and Then Play Better: “You have to learn the rules of the game. And then you have to play better than anyone else.”
Albert also said, “Intuition is the only real thing.” Intuition is a key mentoring skill. Check out my certificate course Keys to Mindfulness Mentoring. Mindfully Yours – John