THE 12-STEP PROGRAM TO SIMPLICITY

Here are 12 very specific tools for simplifying your life.
by Dr Wayne Dyer

1. Unclutter your life.

You’ll feel a real rush of inspiration when you clear out stuff that’s no longer useful in your life:

  • If you haven’t worn it in the past year or two, recycle it for others to use.
  • Get rid of old files that take up space and are seldom, if ever, needed.
  • Donate unused toys, tools, books, bicycles, and dishes to a charitable organization.

Get rid of anything that keeps you mired in acquisitions that contribute to a cluttered life. In the words of Socrates, “He is nearest to God who needs the fewest things.” So the less you need to insure, protect, dust, reorganize, and move, the closer you’ll be to hearing inspiration’s call.

2. Clear your calendar of unwanted and unnecessary activities and obligations.

If you’re unavailable for Spirit, you’re unlikely to know the glow of inspiration. God will indeed work with you and send you the guidance—and the people—you need, but if you’re grossly overscheduled, you’re going to miss these life-altering gifts. So practice saying no to excessive demands and don’t feel guilty about injecting a dose of leisure time into your daily routine.

3. Be sure to keep your free time free

Be on the lookout for invitations to functions that may keep you on top of society’s pyramid, but which inhibit your access to joyful inspiration. If cocktail parties, social get-togethers, fund-raising events, or even drinking-and-gossiping gatherings with friends aren’t really how you want to spend your free time, then don’t. Begin declining invitations that don’t activate feelings of inspiration.

4. Take time for meditation and yoga.

Give yourself at least 20 minutes a day to sit quietly and make conscious contact with God. I’ve written an entire book on this subject called Getting in the Gap, so I won’t belabor it here.

I also encourage you to find a yoga center near you and begin a regular practice. The rewards are so powerful: You’ll feel healthier, less stressed, and inspired by what you’ll be able to do with and for your body in a very short time.

5. Return to the simplicity of nature.

There’s nothing more awe inspiring than nature itself. The fantasy to return to a less tumultuous life almost always involves living in the splendor of the mountains, the forests, or the tundra; on an island; near the ocean; or beside a lake. These are universal urges, since nature is created by the same Source as we are, and we’re made up of the same chemicals as all of nature (we’re stardust, remember?).

Your urge to simplify and feel inspired is fueled by the desire to be your natural self—that is, your nature self. So give yourself permission to get away to trek or camp in the woods; swim in a river, lake, or ocean; sit by an open fire; ride horseback through trails; or ski down a mountain slope. This doesn’t have to mean long, planned vacations that are months away—no matter where you live, you’re only a few hours or even moments away from a park, campground, or trail that will allow you to enjoy a feeling of being connected to the entire Universe.

6. Put distance between you and your critics.

Choose to align yourself with people who are like-minded in their search for simplified inspiration. Give those who find fault or who are confrontational a silent blessing and remove yourself from their energy as quickly as possible. Your life is simplified enormously when you don’t have to defend yourself to anyone, and when you receive support rather than criticism.

You don’t have to endure the criticism with anything other than a polite thank-you and a promise to consider what’s been said—anything else is a state of conflict that erases the possibility of your feeling inspired. You never need to defend yourself or your desires to anyone, as those inner feelings are Spirit speaking to you. Those thoughts are sacred, so don’t ever let anyone trample on them.

7. Take some time for your health.

Consider that the number one health problem in America seems to be obesity. How can you feel inspired and live in simplicity if you’re gorging on excessive amounts of food and eliminating the exercise that the body craves? Recall that your body is a sacred temple where you reside for this lifetime, so make some time every single day for exercising it. Even if you can only manage a walk around the block, just do it.

Similarly, keep the words portion control uppermost in your consciousness—your stomach is the size of your fist, not a wheelbarrow! Respect your sacred temple and simplify your life by being an exerciser and a sensible eater. I promise that you’ll feel inspired if you act on this today!

8. Play, play, play!

You’ll simplify your life and feel inspired if you learn to play rather than work your way through life. I love to be around kids because they inspire me with their laughter and frivolity.

Get back in touch with your real, playful self, and take every opportunity to play! Notice how it makes everything so sweet, and so simple.

9. Slow down.

One of Gandhi’s most illuminating observations reminds us that “there is more to life than increasing its speed.” This is great advice for simplifying your life—in fact, slow everything way down for a few moments right here and now. Slowly read these words. Slow your breathing down so that you’re aware of each inhalation and exhalation…

When you’re in your car, downshift and relax. Slow down your speech, your inner thoughts, and the frantic pace of everything you do. Take more time to hear others. Notice your inclination to interrupt and get the conversation over with, and then choose to listen instead. Stop to enjoy the stars on a clear night and the cloud formations on a crisp day. Sit down in a mall and just observe how everyone seems in a hurry to get nowhere.

By slowing down, you’ll simplify and rejoin the perfect pace at which creation works. Imagine trying to hurry nature up by tugging at an emerging tomato plant—you’re as natural as that plant, so let yourself be at peace with the perfection of nature’s plan.

10. Do everything you can to eschew debt.

Remember that you’re attempting to simplify your life here, so you don’t need to purchase more of what will complicate and clutter your life. If you can’t afford it, let it go until you can. By going into debt, you’ll just add layers of anxiety onto your life. That anxiety will then take you away from your peace, which is where you are when you’re in-Spirit.

When you have to work extra hard to pay off debts, the present moments of your life are less enjoyable; consequently, you’re further away from the joy and peace that are the trademarks of inspiration. You’re far better off to have less and enjoy the days of your life than to take on debt and invite stress and anxiety where peace and tranquility could have reigned. And remember that the money you have in your possession is nothing but energy—so refuse to plug in to an energy system that’s not even there.

11. Forget about the cash value.

Do what your heart tells you will bring you joy, rather than determining whether it will be cost-effective. Don’t base your purchases on getting a discount, and don’t rob yourself of a simple joy because you didn’t get a break on the price. You can afford a happy, fulfilling life, and if you’re busy right now thinking that I have some nerve telling you this because of your bleak financial picture, then you have your own barrier of resistance.

Make an attempt to free yourself from placing a price tag on everything you have and do—after all, in the world of Spirit, there are no price tags. Don’t make money the guiding principle for what you have or do; rather, simplify your life and return to Spirit by finding the inherent value in everything. A dollar does not determine worth, even though you live in a world that attempts to convince you otherwise.

12. Remember your spirit.

When life tends to get overly complex, too fast, too cluttered, too deadline oriented, or too type A for you, stop and remember your own spirit. You’re headed for inspiration, a simple, peaceful place where you’re in harmony with the perfect timing of all creation. Go there in your mind, and stop frequently to remember what you really want.
Thank you to the late and great Wayne Dyer! This excerpt was taken from his book Living An Inspired Life. There are two aspects to inspiration – being inspired and inspiring others. The first of these enriches us and the second helps us enrich others.
Be Mindful… Pause… Connect! Yours in Awareness Always! – John

25 Quotes for Perspective

25 Quotes for Perspective

  1. “She was one of the rare ones, so effortlessly herself, and the world loved her for it.” ~ Atticus
  2. “Be daring. Be different. Be impractical. Be anything that will assert integrity of purpose and imaginative vision against the play-it-safers. The creatures of the commonplace. The slaves of the ordinary.” ~ Cecil Beaton
  3. “Just keep moving forward, and don’t give a shit what anybody thinks.” ~ Johnny Depp
  4. “She accepts your compliments on her face, her hair, and her body graciously and she is, indeed, beautiful. But she is only moved when you notice the beauty of her spirit.” ~ Allaisia Hanan
  5. “There is no beauty without some strangeness.” ~ Edgar Allen Poe
  6. “It is ever so beautiful to be strange. To do things differently than others. To see things in a rare light. To me, that is such a gold to carry.” ~ Christopher Poindexter
  7. “What makes you weird or different, that’s your strength.” ~ Meryl Streep
  8. “She dances to the songs in her head, speaks with the rhythm of her heart, and loves from the depths of her soul.” ~ Dean Jackson
  9. “No great mind has ever existed without a touch of madness.” ~ Aristotle
  10. “But darling, we weren’t given this wild soul just to merely exist. Our mission is to shake up this world, turn it upside down, and show our fellow humans the difference between breathing and being fully alive.” ~ Unknown
  11. “Normal is an illusion. What is normal for the spider is chaos for the fly.” ~ Morticia Addams
  12. “It seems that if you’re passionate about something, it freaks people out. You’re considered bizarre or eccentric. To me, it just means you know who you are.” ~ Tim Burton
  13. “If you don’t fit in, then you’re probably doing the right thing.” ~ Unknown
  14. “Stop trying to explain yourself. People only understand things from their level of perception within the parameters of their agreement with reality.” ~ Steve Maraboli
  15. “I hope to arrive to my death late, in love, and a little drunk.” ~ Atticus
  16. “There are parts of me that will always remain untameable, messy, and reckless; but I refuse to apologize for it anymore.” ~ Kaitlin Fester
  17. “Be brave. Be wild. And stay forever hungry for art, love, knowledge, and adventure.” ~ Erin Van Vuren
  18. “I’m with the dirty mouth girls. The ones with bare feet, brilliant minds, messy hair, wild hearts, and feisty spirits. The ones who aren’t afraid to speak up and who live for doing what they’ve been told is impossible.” ~ Brooke Hampton
  19. “Be weird. Be random. Be who you are. Because you never know who could love the person you hide.” ~ C.S. Lewis
  20. “You’ll turn out ordinary if you’re not careful.” ~ Ann Brashares
  21. “If you end up with a boring miserable life because you listened to your mom, your dad, your teacher, your priest, or some guy on television telling you how to do your shit, then you deserve it.” ~ Frank Zappa
  22. “To be successful, your focus has to be so intense that others think you’re crazy.” ~ Kim Orlesky
  23. “I will not be another flower, picked for my beauty and left to die. I will be wild, difficult to find, and impossible to forget.” ~ Erin Van Vuren
  24. “Normality is a paved road: it’s comfortable to walk, but no flowers grow.” ~ Vincent van Gogh
  25. “Live the full life of the mind, exhilarated by new ideas, intoxicated by the romance of the unusual.” ~ Ernest Hemingway

It’s all about perspective. Your greatest gift is your uniqueness.
Be Mindful… Pause… Connect! – Yours in Awareness Always! – John

10 Lessons from Einstein

Which is your favourite lesson from Albert?
1. Follow Your Curiosity: “I have no special talent. I am only passionately curious.”
2. Perseverance is Priceless: “It’s not that I’m so smart; it’s just that I stay with problems longer.”
3. Focus on the Present: “Any man who can drive safely while kissing a pretty girl is simply not giving the kiss the attention it deserves.”
4. Imagination is Powerful: “Imagination is everything. It is the preview of life’s coming attractions. Imagination is more important than knowledge.”
5. Make Mistakes: “A person who never made a mistake never tried anything new.”
6. Live in the Moment: “I never think of the future – it comes soon enough.”
7. Create Value: “Strive not to be a success, but rather to be of value.”
8. Don’t Be Repetitive: “Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”
9. Knowledge Comes From Experience: “Information is not knowledge. The only source of knowledge is experience.”
10. Learn the Rules and Then Play Better: “You have to learn the rules of the game. And then you have to play better than anyone else.”
Albert also said, “Intuition is the only real thing.” Intuition is a key mentoring skill. Check out my certificate course Keys to Mindfulness Mentoring. Mindfully Yours – John

Wayne Dyer about Lao-tzu Teachings

Present Lao Tzu

I am a huge fan of Dr Wayne Dyer, this is what he had to say about the teachings of Lao-tzu:

“Some 2,500 years ago, Lao-tzu spoke of ‘the four cardinal virtues’ and noted that when we practice them as a way of life, we come to know and access the truth of the universe. These four virtues don’t represent external dogma, but a part of our original nature—by practicing them, we realign with Source and access the powers that Source energy has to offer. According to the teachings of Lao-tzu, the four cardinal virtues represent the surest way to leave habits and excuses behind and reconnect to your original nature. The more your life is harmonized with the four virtues, the less you’re controlled by the uncompromising ego.

The First Cardinal Virtue: Reverence for All Life
The first cardinal virtue manifests in your daily life as unconditional love and respect for all beings in creation. This includes making a conscious effort to love and respect yourself, as well as to remove all judgments and criticisms. Understand that you are a piece of God, and since you must be like what you came from, you are lovable, worthy, and Godlike. Affirm this as often as you can, for when you see yourself in a loving way, you have nothing but love to extend outward. And the more you love others, the less you need old excuse patterns, particularly those relating to blame.

The Second Cardinal Virtue: Natural Sincerity
This virtue manifests itself as honesty, simplicity, and faithfulness; and it’s summed up by the popular reminder to be true to yourself. Using an excuse to explain why your life isn’t working at the level you prefer isn’t being true to yourself—when you’re completely honest and sincere, excuses don’t even enter into the picture. The second virtue involves living a life that reflects choices that come from respect and affection for your own nature. Make truth your most important attribute. Walk your talk; that is, become sincere and honest in all that you say and do. If you find this to be a challenge, take a moment to affirm: I no longer need to be insincere or dishonest. This is who I am, and this is how I feel. When you know and trust yourself, you also know and trust the Divinity that created you. If you live from honesty, sincerity, and faithfulness to the callings of your spirit, you’ll never have occasion to use excuses.

The Third Cardinal Virtue: Gentleness
This virtue personifies one of my favourite and most frequently employed maxims: ‘When you have the choice to be right or to be kind, always pick kind.’ So many of your old thinking habits and their attendant excuses come out of a need to make yourself right and others wrong. When you practice this third virtue, you eliminate conflicts that result in your need to explain why you’re right. This virtue manifests as kindness, consideration for others, and sensitivity to spiritual truth.
Gentleness generally implies that you no longer have a strong ego-inspired desire to dominate or control others, which allows you to move into a rhythm with the universe. You cooperate with it, much like a surfer who rides with the waves instead of trying to overpower them. Gentleness means accepting life and people as they are, rather than insisting that they be as you are. As you practice living this way, blame disappears and you enjoy a peaceful world.

The Fourth Cardinal Virtue: Supportiveness
This virtue manifests in your life as service to others without any expectation of reward. Once again, when you extend yourself in a spirit of giving, helping, or loving, you act as God acts. As you consider the many excuses that have dominated your life, look carefully at them—you’ll see that they’re all focused on the ego: I can’t do this. I’m too busy or too scared. I’m unworthy. No one will help me. I’m too old. I’m too tired. Now imagine shifting your attention off of yourself and asking the universal mind How may I serve? When you do so, the message you’re sending is: I’m not thinking about myself and what I can or can’t have. Your attention is on making someone else feel better.

The greatest joy comes from giving and serving, so replace your habit of focusing exclusively on yourself and what’s in it for you. When you make the shift to supporting others in your life, without expecting anything in return, you’ll think less about what you want and find comfort and joy in the act of giving and serving.
The four cardinal virtues are a road map to the simple truth of the universe. To revere all of life, to live with natural sincerity, to practice gentleness, and to be in service to others is to replicate the energy field from which you originated.”

Mindfulness is about paying attention with flexibility, curiosity and openness. A mindful practice involves pausing your mind with awareness throughout your day and connecting to source energy within. The power of mindfulness is in the silence between your thoughts. Mindfully Yours with Love, Joy & Peace Always ~ John

How Albert Saw the World

Albert

“School failed me, and I failed the school. It bored me. The teachers behaved like Feldwebel (sergeants). I wanted to learn what I wanted to know, but they wanted me to learn for the exam. What I hated most was the competitive system there, and especially sports. Because of this, I wasn’t worth anything, and several times they suggested I leave.

This was a Catholic School in Munich. I felt that my thirst for knowledge was being strangled by my teachers; grades were their only measurement. How can a teacher understand youth with such a system?

From the age of twelve I began to suspect authority and distrust teachers. I learned mostly at home, first from my uncle and then from a student who came to eat with us once a week. He would give me books on physics and astronomy.

The more I read, the more puzzled I was by the order of the universe and the disorder of the human mind, by the scientists who didn’t agree on the how, the when, or the why of creation.

Then one day this student brought me Kant’s Critique of Pure Reason. Reading Kant, I began to suspect everything I was taught. I no longer believed in the known God of the Bible, but rather in the mysterious God expressed in nature.

The basic laws of the universe are simple, but because our senses are limited, we can’t grasp them. There is a pattern in creation.

If we look at this tree outside whose roots search beneath the pavement for water, or a flower which sends its sweet smell to the pollinating bees, or even our own selves and the inner forces that drive us to act, we can see that we all dance to a mysterious tune, and the piper who plays this melody from an inscrutable distance – whatever name we give him – Creative Force, or God – escapes all book knowledge.

Science is never finished because the human mind only uses a small portion of its capacity, and man’s exploration of his world is also limited.

Creation may be spiritual in origin, but that doesn’t mean that everything created is spiritual. How can I explain such things to you? Let us accept the world is a mystery. Nature is neither solely material nor entirely spiritual.

Man, too, is more than flesh and blood; otherwise, no religions would have been possible. Behind each cause is still another cause; the end or the beginning of all causes has yet to be found.

Yet, only one thing must be remembered: there is no effect without a cause, and there is no lawlessness in creation.

If I hadn’t an absolute faith in the harmony of creation, I wouldn’t have tried for thirty years to express it in a mathematical formula. It is only man’s consciousness of what he does with his mind that elevates him above the animals, and enables him to become aware of himself and his relationship to the universe.

I believe that I have cosmic religious feelings. I never could grasp how one could satisfy these feelings by praying to limited objects. The tree outside is life, a statue is dead. The whole of nature is life, and life, as I observe it, rejects a God resembling man.

Man has infinite dimensions and finds God in his conscience. (A cosmic religion) has no dogma other than teaching man that the universe is rational and that his highest destiny is to ponder it and co-create with its laws.

I like to experience the universe as one harmonious whole. Every cell has life. Matter, too, has life; it is energy solidified. Our bodies are like prisons, and I look forward to be free, but I don’t speculate on what will happen to me.

I live here now, and my responsibility is in this world now. I deal with natural laws. This is my work here on earth.

The world needs new moral impulses which, I’m afraid, won’t come from the churches, heavily compromised as they have been throughout the centuries.

Perhaps those impulses must come from scientists in the tradition of Galileo, Kepler and Newton. In spite of failures and persecutions, these men devoted their lives to proving that the universe is a single entity, in which, I believe, a humanized God has no place.

The genuine scientist is not moved by praise or blame, nor does he preach. He unveils the universe and people come eagerly, without being pushed, to behold a new revelation: the order, the harmony, the magnificence of creation!

And as man becomes conscious of the stupendous laws that govern the universe in perfect harmony, he begins to realize how small he is. He sees the pettiness of human existence, with its ambitions and intrigues, its ‘I am better than thou’ creed.

This is the beginning of cosmic religion within him; fellowship and human service become his moral code. Without such moral foundations, we are hopelessly doomed.

If we want to improve the world we cannot do it with scientific knowledge but with ideals. Confucius, Buddha, Jesus and Gandhi have done more for humanity than science has done.

We must begin with the heart of man – with his conscience – and the values of conscience can only be manifested by selfless service to mankind.

Religion and science go together. As I’ve said before, science without religion is lame and religion without science is blind. They are interdependent and have a common goal – the search for truth.

Hence it is absurd for religion to proscribe Galileo or Darwin or other scientists. And it is equally absurd when scientists say that there is no God. The real scientist has faith, which does not mean that he must subscribe to a creed.

Without religion there is no charity. The soul given to each of us is moved by the same living spirit that moves the universe.

I am not a mystic. Trying to find out the laws of nature has nothing to do with mysticism, though in the face of creation I feel very humble. It is as if a spirit is manifest infinitely superior to man’s spirit. Through my pursuit in science I have known cosmic religious feelings. But I don’t care to be called a mystic.

I believe that we don’t need to worry about what happens after this life, as long as we do our duty here – to love and to serve.

I have faith in the universe, for it is rational. Law underlies each happening. And I have faith in my purpose here on earth. I have faith in my intuition, the language of my conscience, but I have no faith in speculation about Heaven and Hell. I’m concerned with this time – here and now.

Many people think that the progress of the human race is based on experiences of an empirical, critical nature, but I say that true knowledge is to be had only through a philosophy of deduction. For it is intuition that improves the world, not just following a trodden path of thought.

Intuition makes us look at unrelated facts and then think about them until they can all be brought under one law. To look for related facts means holding onto what one has instead of searching for new facts.

Intuition is the father of new knowledge, while empiricism is nothing but an accumulation of old knowledge. Intuition, not intellect, is the ‘open sesame’ of yourself.

Indeed, it is not intellect, but intuition which advances humanity. Intuition tells man his purpose in this life.

I do not need any promise of eternity to be happy. My eternity is now. I have only one interest: to fulfill my purpose here where I am.

This purpose is not given me by my parents or my surroundings. It is induced by some unknown factors. These factors make me a part of eternity.”

~ Albert Einstein (1879 – 1955)

Text Source: Einstein and the Poet: In Search of the Cosmic Man (1983). From a series of meetings William Hermanns had with Einstein in 1930, 1943, 1948, and 1954

We are All One, One with Spirit, One with Life! Be Mindful and Trust Your Intuition! Mindfully Yours with Love, Joy & Peace Always!

25 Wayne Dyer Quotes

Wayne Dyer

Dr. Wayne Dyer made a profound difference to the lives of millions of people all over the world. These 25 quotes are a tribute to an awesome human being. R.I.P.

  1. “With everything that has happened to you, you can feel sorry for yourself or treat what has happened as a gift. Everything is either an opportunity to grow or an obstacle to keep you from growing. You get to choose.”
  2. “If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.”
  3. “When you squeeze an orange, orange juice comes out, because that’s what’s inside. When you are squeezed, what comes out is what is inside.”
  4. “How people treat you is their karma; how you react is yours.”
  5. “Peace is the result of retraining your mind to process life as it is, rather than as you think it should be.”
  6. “When you judge another, you do not define them, you define yourself.”
  7. “Procrastination is one of the most common and deadliest of diseases and its toll on success and happiness is heavy.”
  8. “Be miserable. Or motivate yourself. Whatever has to be done, it’s always your choice.”
  9. “When I chased after money, I never had enough. When I got my life on purpose and focused on giving of myself and everything that arrived into my life, then I was prosperous.”
  10. “Conflict cannot survive without your participation.”
  11. “Stop acting as if life is a rehearsal. Live this day as if it were your last. The past is over and gone. The future is not guaranteed.”
  12. “You cannot be lonely if you like the person you’re alone with.”
  13. “The highest form of ignorance is when you reject something you don’t know anything about.”
  14. “If you believe it will work out, you’ll see opportunities. If you believe it won’t you will see obstacles.”
  15. “When you dance, your purpose is not to get to a certain place on the floor. It’s to enjoy each step along the way.”
  16. “Doing what you love is the cornerstone of having abundance in your life.”
  17. “Everything you are against weakens you. Everything you are empowers you.”
  18. “Abundance is not something we acquire. It is something we tune into.”
  19. “There is no scarcity of opportunity to make a living at what you love. There’s only scarcity of resolve to make it happen.”
  20. “Circumstances do not make a man, they reveal him.”
  21. “The fact that you are willing to say, ‘I do not understand, and it is fine,’ is the greatest understanding you could exhibit.”
  22. “It’s never crowded along the extra mile.”
  23. “Go for it now. The future is promised to no one.”
  24. “When the choice is to be right or to be kind, always make the choice that brings peace.”
  25. Don’t die with your music still in you.

Wayne sure didn’t go with the music still in him! Be Mindful… and inspired to make a difference. Love, Joy & Peace Always! – John

I Believe…

Yamba Beach

I Believe…

  1. that two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different.
  2. that the happiest people don’t necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the best of everything they have.
  3. that either you control your attitude or it controls you.
  4. that just because two people argue, it doesn’t mean they don’t love each other. And just because they don’t argue, it doesn’t mean they do.
  5. that we don’t have to change friends if we understand that friends change.
  6. that no matter how good a friend is, they’re going to hurt you every once in a while and you must forgive them for that.
  7. that the people you care about most in life are often taken from you too soon.
  8. that true friendship continues to grow, even over the longest distance. Same goes for true love.
  9. that you can do something in an instant that could give you heartache for life.
  10. that you should always leave loved ones with loving words. It may be the last time you see them.
  11. that you can keep going long after you think you can’t.
  12. that heroes are the people who do what has to be done when it needs to be done, regardless of the consequences.
  13. that money is a lousy way of keeping score.
  14. that sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you’re down, will be the ones to help you get back up.
  15. that we are responsible for what we do, no matter how we feel.
  16. that sometimes when I’m angry I have the right to be angry, but that doesn’t give me the right to be cruel.
  17. that it’s taking me a long time to become the person I want to be.
  18. that maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you’ve had and what you’ve learned from them and less to do with how many birthdays you’ve celebrated.
  19. that credentials on the wall do not make you a decent human being.
  20. that it isn’t always enough to be forgiven by others. Sometimes you have to learn to forgive yourself.
  21. that no matter how bad your heart is broken, the world doesn’t stop for your grief.
  22. that our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we are responsible for who we become.
  23. that your life can be changed in a matter of hours by people who don’t even know you.
  24. that even when you think you have no more to give, when a friend cries out to you – you will find the strength to help.
  25. that you should share this with all of the people that you believe in… I just did.

My best friend shared this with me. Please pay it forward! Mindfully Yours – John

Where are you on the Moodometer?

Moodometer

Where are you on the Moodometer?

In 1982, I died in a horrific truck smash and was revived. My world got turned upside down and I spent the next fifteen years mostly in the red zone. I was diagnosed with a mental illness and medical authorities told me that I would never be cured and never work again. Over that time I was given a smorgasbord of medications. At my lowest point, I was given shock treatment in an attempt to help me overcome a suicidal mood. I now call that time ‘my dark years’.

In 1997, I got my miracle when an old friend knocked on my door and told me his story. I hadn’t seen him for seventeen years. He told me how he was driving through town and got a ‘spiritual prompt’ to visit me. I haven’t seen him since but his random act of kindness put me on track into the yellow zone. I became spiritually aware and for the first time in my life, everything made sense to me. Negative and unhelpful thoughts continued but they were easily overcome.

In 2009, Dr Russ Harris trained me as an ACT therapist. Acceptance & Commitment Therapy is a mindfulness based therapy. I started a personal mindfulness practice that led me into the green zone. Negative and unhelpful thoughts lost thier power and have all but disappeared. I am now happily living ‘in the light’. I have both peace of mind and clarity of mind. My memory function and intuition are finely tuned. I am now very grateful for the years, they have helped make me who I am today.

In 2014, after an intensive five year study into the many aspects of mindfulness, I hosted a facebook event called Mindfulness Day. I invited Australians with mental suffering and 4,700 turned up for the month long event. I wrote a blog every day and hundreds of lives were transformed. The event became my book Mindful Actions which was launched on World Mental Health Day, 10th October. The feedback has been amazing! I am very passionate about my purpose which is to help people who are ‘stuck’. Mindfulness is now proven to be an excellent alternative to medication.

Mindfully Yours with Love, Joy & Peace Always! – John

I Promise Myself

1Be You

I Promise Myself

  1. to laugh as if nobody’s watching, and love as if I’ve never been hurt before.
  2. to live as if I were to die tomorrow, and learn as if I were to live forever.
  3. to let go of the heavy burden of my past. To turn my wounds into wisdom and my  difficulties into opportunities.
  4. to love myself as much as I would like others to love me.
  5. to die to the past every night, so that I can be born again each morning.
  6. to never speak from a place of hate, jealousy, anger, or insecurity. And to always evaluate my words before I let them leave my lips.
  7. to forgive so that I can heal, and let go so that I can grow.
  8. to learn from every experience and every interaction life sends my way.
  9. to always look for the good in people. To treat everyone with love, kindness, compassion, appreciation and never speak badly of anyone.
  10. to allow life’s many challenges to make me better, not bitter.
  11. to complain less, and live my life with an attitude of gratitude.
  12. to create a sense of purpose and bring meaning into everyday life. No matter how many times I fall or fail, I promise myself to never give up on myself or my dreams.
  13. to let go of all the drama in my life, and only hold on to those things that bring me joy.
  14. to live my life in a way that inspires others and strive to bring out the best in them.
  15. to surround myself with people who make me hungry for life, touch my heart, and nurture my spirit.
  16. to think less and feel more. To judge less and trust more. To fear less and love more.
  17. to walk away from everything that no longer serves me, grows me, or makes me happy.
  18. to spend more time connecting with my authentic self, and less time chasing the love and approval of those around me.
  19. to show the world who I truly am and not consider what people might be thinking about me.
  20. to transform my inner vision until I see nothing but light, my own and all those around me.
  21. to let go of any bad habits I might be holding on to, and walk away from all those things that hold me back in life.
  22. to let go of all blame and take full responsibility for my own life.
  23. to allow the world know me as I am, not as it thinks I should be.
  24. to be tender with the young, compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving, and empathetic of the weak.
  25. to clothe myself with love and wear this love wherever I go.
  26. to care more about being kind than I do about being right all the time.
  27. to give more of my time to those who are special in my life, and show them how much they really mean to me.
  28. to trust my inner voice and intuition more than I trust the loud voice of those around me.
  29. to expect less from others but more and more from myself.
  30. to allow those I care for to be perfectly themselves without trying to twist them to fit my own image. Loving them for who they are and not for what I want them to be.

And above all! I Promise Myself to Be Mindful! Love & Laughter Always! – John

Positive Psychology

Perspective

In simple terms, positive psychology focuses on what’s working rather than on what’s not working; it asks what’s right rather than what’s wrong; the emphasis is on utilising strengths instead of fixing weaknesses (although please note; positive psychology doesn’t ignore faults, weaknesses and limitations. It accepts that we all have these but that as much as possible, our efforts and energies should be mostly, on using what we’re already good at).

We can sum up the core components of positive psychology that contribute to happiness and success in the following acronym. We believe that achieving happiness requires nothing more than practicing a few simple disciplines each and every day and to practice these disciplines we need to constantly make the right choices. So, next time you’re making a choice remember that “choose” is not just a philosophy of taking responsibility but also, a mnemonic that stands for:
C = Clarity
Clarity refers to your goals, direction and purpose in life. Happy people set goals that are much more clearly defined. They more actively and effectively determine clear and specific plans to ensure these goals become reality. So, set aside some time to clarify your life plan as soon as possible because if you don’t do it, no one else will do it for you!
H = Healthy Living
Healthy living is about activity and exercise, diet and nutrition and sleep. Health forms a crucial part of the foundation to happiness. It’s hard to be happy if you’re literally sick and tired all the time. So, although you don’t have to turn vegan and/or run marathons, do whatever you can to be healthy (by eating well, exercising and ensuring you gain adequate sleep and rest) and you’ll also boost your chances of being happy.
O = Optimism
Optimism refers to positive but realistic thinking. There’s no doubt that happy people think about themselves, others and the world around them differently. Among other things, they search for more positives although they also face up to cold, hard realities in a constructive way. The good news is that this is something you can learn to do so start practicing now – look around you for what’s good and look at what you can actively do to fix what’s not so good.
O = Others
When we consider others, we are considering the key relationships in your life. Research strongly indicates that happy people have both more and better quality relationships. Happiness is not a solo sport; it’s a team effort. Make sure you devote time to developing and fostering your key relationships because other people matter and compassion, thoughtfulness, caring and consideration of others are key to real and meaningful happiness.
S = Strengths
The “S” for strengths represents your core qualities and attributes. Rather than spending all their time trying to “fix” their “weaknesses”, happy people spend more time identifying and utilising their strengths. So quite simply, stop asking “what’s wrong and how can I fix it” quite so often and start asking “what’s right and how can I do more of it”. Find out what you’re good at (your inner attributes and positive qualities) and do it as much as possible in as many ways as possible.
E = Enjoy the moment
Finally, enjoying the moment is about living in and appreciating the present. The past is history, tomorrow’s a mystery, and today’s a gift – that’s why they call it “the present”. Live in the moment and enjoy life more; learn from the past but look to the future and ask, “What can I do now?” Practice appreciation and gratitude by focusing more on what you have and less on what you don’t have.

So there it is, a brief overview of positive psychology or what is sometimes referred to as the science of happiness. If there were one message I’d like you to walk away with it would be that happiness is very much achievable! No matter who you are and what you do, no matter what your background or your current context, you can all learn to live lives with more happiness. We can all become happier. We can’t change the past and we can’t control all that happens to us but we can CHOOSE how we respond to what happens and as a result, we can (at least partially) determine our future!

Many Thanks to Dr Tim Sharp for this post. (The Happiness Institute)
Love, Laughter & Be Mindful Always! ~ John